11 Subtle Signs You & Your Partner Might Be Growing Apart

11 Subtle Signs You & Your Partner Might Be Growing Apart

Relationships have a natural ebb and flow, but if you feel like you're only growing further apart from your partner, never to become closer again, the relationship may need some work. Knowing the subtle signs you and your partner are becoming distant can help you take a step back and reevaluate your relationship. Not all signs of relationship turmoil are super obvious, so it can be useful to pay attention to the little indicators that could mean a lot.

"In most cases where relationships fall apart, the process is gradual, and the end is a culmination of ongoing struggles rather than a single incident," says says Carl J. Sheperis, Program Dean of College of Social Sciences at University of Phoenix, over email. "Knowing if your relationship is struggling and recognizing signs that you and your partner are growing apart can help you to either take action to fix the problems or to cut bait and run."

It's a bummer when the relationship stops being all rainbows and butterflies, but the honeymoon phase only lasts about a year, according to research from the journal Psychoneuroendocrinology. After that, the relationship can still be great, but it requires a little more work and effort on each end. If no one's putting in that work, you likely won't feel as close or fulfilled by your partner.

If you think this may be happening to you, it's time to consider these 11 subtle signs that you and your partner are growing apart.

 

1. You Stop Having Sex

1. You Stop Having Sex

It's not a good sign if you and your partner aren't spending time together in the bedroom. "Some couples find other forms of intimacy that can replace actual sex," says psychoanalyst Dr. Claudia Luiz over email. "But if there is no sex, no affection, no nurturing, and no intimacy, the relationship will not last."